This is from Natalie. (Click here if you are wondering why she is posting on our blog.) She seems to get what it means to give yourself for a child. The decision to adopt or assist a child is a big one. (That of course being an understatement.) You never know what will happen. You plan for a, b, and c but then x, y, and z are thrown in. Not multiple choice either. It’s the whole alphabet or you remain mute. No in-between when it comes to children.
Something most girls dream of all their lives is getting married and having children. Becoming a wife is the first part of that equation, followed by becoming a mother. Both dreams usually come true eventually, and with little effort-- at least for most women. In my own life, the wife part was easy once I let God choose my husband...and I’m sure glad I did! After the wedding, like most normal couples, our thoughts turned towards having a family. Unfortunately, four years of trying to have children made us wonder if this “natural” thing was ever going to happen.
A LIFE-CHANGING QUESTION
One day the phone rang and our pastor’s wife was on the other end. She asked, “Have you ever thought about adoption?” The answer to that question would literally change our lives forever. The next month and a half turned into a whirlwind of excitement and activity. We met with the birth mother, we prayed, we discussed it all with our families, and we came to the conclusion that this adoption was definitely what we wanted to do. I was able to go to our birth mother’s first doctor appointment at the beginning of December. She thought she was already in her eighth month, but wasn’t sure. The doctor conducting the exam was having a challenge hearing the heartbeat without an echo, and told us that there would be no hiding the heartbeat if she was looking in the womb. So, down the hall we went for an impromptu sonogram.
A DOUBLE BLESSING
It seemed we stared forever at the screen. Then the doctor began to grin. “Well,” she said, “it looks like we are having twins.” I am sure I must have looked shocked, because the birth mother looked over at me and said “do you want both of them?” Quickly, and without hesitation, I answered “YES!” A subsequent sonogram revealed that both babies were boys, and a revised due date for their arrival was set for February 14. But as with most twins, they did not wait that long. Shortly after the holidays, on January 5th, our sons made their debut. It was love at first sight for me! They were wonderful and beautiful all at the same time. I did not know that such a feeling could exist inside me for two little people I had only just met.
When my husband and I finally got to go in the nursery and see the boys, I was only allowed to hold one. They called him Twin B, but we called him Timothy. The other, whom they called Twin A, was not doing as well as his brother. We called him Caleb. My heart was in my throat at the thought of losing one before I even got to know him. So it was time to make the call to family and friends for prayer. I was determined that they were both going home with us. In every sense of the word I had already become a mother. Timothy grew strong quickly and was released after 7 days. We brought him home from the hospital and left Caleb in the hands of the doctors and God. Between the feedings in the middle of the night, the visits to the NICU, and working at my job, I do not remember much about that time. Everything was a blur. Life was suddenly very different, as it is for any new parents. But by the end of February, we experienced God’s full measure of faithfulness to us as our little Caleb had his “homecoming” as well.
FAITHFUL TO DELIVER
The Lord and I had lots of conversations in the wee hours of the morning during feeding time. He spoke to my heart about many things, and used the boys as teaching tools. It may have been a physical feeding for the babies, but it was spiritual feeding time for me. When we were trying to have a baby and nothing seemed to be happening, we felt like “God, this is taking way too long!” But, when He answered our prayers and we multiplied from a couple to a family of four in only two months, our attitude was “Whoa, God! Things are moving too fast!” Nevertheless, we learned God is faithful to deliver on His promises even when His timing is different than ours.
Our sons just celebrated their 9th birthdays, and have been true blessings in our lives. They look and act so much like our own families that we joke that they must have our DNA! God knew all along we would be the ones to raise Caleb and Timothy, but we had to be obedient to Him for it to happen. I love sharing my personal adoption experience with others, because I see it as an example of God’s love for mankind. Without relationship with God, the Bible describes us as spiritually fatherless. We may still have our earthly father, but we don’t have a Heavenly Father. The Bible says in Luke 19:10 that the “Son of Man came to seek and save the lost.” I can just picture the Lord getting a call from his Son Jesus, “Dad, I have another one for you. Can we adopt her as well?” Through His loving kindness, and without hesitation, He answers “YES!” As an earthly mother, if I fell in love immediately with my two boys the second I saw them, how much more does God love us from our moment of creation?
Here’s a little known fact you may not know-- when you are legally adopted, it’s impossible to be disinherited in the eyes of the law. Bearing natural children could be considered “unexpected”, accidental” or “unplanned”. But with adoption, you go through a great deal seeking out a child to call your own, many times at a greater expense than normal pregnancy and birth. Adoptive parents make solid, reasoned choices to raise a child—premeditated actions that are not at all “unplanned.” Isn’t that how God works to make us His children? Our Heavenly Father does not “unadopt” or disinherit us! We can choose to walk away from Him, just as the prodigal did from his father. But He chooses not to ever walk away from us. Like a natural inheritance, a spiritual inheritance is always there for our benefit if we’ll just stay around to receive it. If God not only came to find us, but sent His only Son to die for us, let me ask the same question my pastor’s wife asked me: “Have you ever considered adoption?” Your adoption, by your Heavenly Father? Take this opportunity to pray and think about it. I guarantee that the answer to this question will literally change your life forever!