Why can't it be easy? Shouldn't one be able to take in an orphan, care for them for eight years, and all be o.k.? Sounds reasonable to me.
Alas. When it comes to children who have been traumatized nothing is easy. Feelings get locked away in deep corners of the soul. Unfortunately no matter how safe you make a place (family) some children keep those feelings bottled up. Thing is, eventually they bubble over and get on others.
One of our children expresses this with lies. She seemingly cannot stop herself from fabricating stories. Over and over and over again. Her tales become too elaborate and fantastical to believe anymore and she alienates those around her.
I cannot divulge much here, she does have a right to privacy after all. She is no longer staying full time with us, nor even attending school. Today we do not even know why she is not going to school, nor is it likely we will ever know. Since she has attained the legal age of adulthood, there is not much we nor the police can do about her decisions.
It is painful. She had made so much progress in the years she lived with us. Many great memories with her. Struggles with emotions, breakthroughs, relapses, and family bonding. It is tough to see a child you have grown to love, that you have rescued, that you embraced into your family, throw it all away just to be able to keep on lying.
We do not know what the future is for this child, but we still love her. When she is ready to talk, we will be there to help find the path for her life. For now she is staying with a former teacher in Nakuru. (Not our choice as this teacher seems to be fairly immature.) One of the hardest things about taking in older girls has been that we have had to learn that there comes a point when you have to let go and hope that what you have imparted in them is enough to help them through.